We've already given you a guide for how to masturbate if you have a vagina. Here's your guide for that, too — and yes, there actually is a lot to learn when it comes to how to masturbate better. This is giving very little credit to the art of masturbation and the multitude of pathways to explore, regardless of which set of reproductive organs you possess. Keep reading for some information on how to masturbate if you have a penis.
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Last Updated: October 4, References. This article was co-authored by our trained team of editors and researchers who validated it for accuracy and comprehensiveness. There are 17 references cited in this article, which can be found at the bottom of the page. This article has been viewed , times. Learn more Talking to your teen about masturbation can feel awkward, and it's likely that you're dreading it. Chances are, your teen isn't too excited to talk about it either. While it won't be easy, talking to your teen will ensure they have the facts about masturbation and will show them that you're open to talking about the tough topics. Throughout your talk, let your teen know that what they're going through is normal, so there's nothing to feel ashamed about.
Health benefits of masturbation
Talking to your child about masturbation may feel a little awkward, embarrassing or even deeply uncomfortable. But these are necessary conversations for parents who want to raise kids with a healthy understanding of sex and their bodies. Instead of seeing it as a problem to solve, think of it as an opportunity to teach skills and concepts that empower young people to grow into sexually healthy adults. To help inform these conversations, HuffPost spoke to Cavill and two other sex educators about the best ways to talk to kids about masturbation, or self-touching. Here are their expert-backed guidelines and tips for parents and caregivers to keep in mind.
Why are we still embarrassed to talk about masturbation? Like eating or breathing, sexual urges are a natural part of our biology, and by telling our children otherwise, we can set them up for a lifetime of sexual shame. I remember the first time I discovered masturbation; I was only 9 years old. I had a sudden desire to see what the bathtub water from the faucet would feel like on my vulva — and I experienced a pleasant surprise. When did the shame surrounding masturbation begin? Some of us learned it at church or through our parents, others through social encounters or mainstream media. Regardless of its origins in each of our life stories, this stigma has a long-lasting psychologically damaging effect that teaches children to be ashamed of their desire and their bodies, which can lead to sexual issues or depression down the line. It is critical that children experience shame-free connections to their own bodies, so they can become attuned to sensations that feel positive and pleasing as well as those that do not. So that they can communicate clearly about what goes on with their bodies without keeping secrets or feeling ashamed.